For most moms, the idea of staying home with the kids is an idyll, and for those moms who are able to stay at home, they know that they are blessed – most of the time! Some days, though, you can feel impatient and irritable and yearn for a little escape from the daily routine that forms around little ones. You don’t always want to be ‘mom’ all the time.
It’s reasonable enough to feel like this – you’d have to be some kind of superhuman not to. But when you’ve had a few minutes to relax by yourself and unwind, ask yourself, would you really trade places with the many women who have to drop their child at the crèche on the way to work and don’t get to see them again until the evening? Not likely!
The key to being a good stay at home mom is to allow yourself some time for you during the day. People who go out to work in an office get that – even if it’s just a short lunch break, or during the time that they’re commuting to and from the office. It allows them to clear their heads and then when they go back to their desks, they’re refreshed and ready to go again. Just because you have the luxury of being at home doesn’t mean you should be denied a little ‘me’ time now and then. And the break benefits are just as important for a SAHM as they are for people in an office environment.
Of course, the breaks a SAHM can take are fleeting. You have to work around your child’s routine, and time your rests with theirs. When they’re napping or watching their favourite TV show, this is a great time for you to put your feet up too. So what can you do in such brief periods? The internet is a great source of diversions, of course, for any time of day. You can catch up on the news headlines, see what’s going on on Facebook or Twitter, or check your emails. You can also do some gaming – which can be a great way to clear your head. If you don’t know what to play, take a look at online bingo – one of the most popular online games around.
Online bingo is entertaining and with games only costing a few pennies at a time, it’s great value entertainment. There’s nothing you need to learn to play bingo, it’s an easy game that doesn’t really need a player to do more than buy a ticket. And you don’t even have to do that. Free games and attractive promotions are on offer from many big names in the industry. For example, once you’ve made a deposit you can play Costa Bingo’s free bingo games every half hour without paying for the privilege. And with jackpots of up to £50 that’s a free game you don’t want to miss out on.
It doesn’t really matter how you choose to spend your little time out breaks; the important thing is to make sure you have them – at least once or twice during the course of the day. That way, you can carry on being a great mom for the other 23 hours in the day!
For my last post of this week, I just had to share something that I recently saw on Yahoo’s Shine website. It was a list of 10 Things Never to Say to a Stay at Home Mom. Here’s the whole list:
1. When the kids are older, do you think you’ll get a real job?
2. How June Cleaver of you!
3. Oh, so you don’t work?
4. Since you have extra time on your hands, could you whip up a few dozen brownies for the bake sale tomorrow?
5. All day with your kids? I can’t even imagine.
6. I’m jealous. I wish my husband were rich so I wouldn’t have to work either.
7. What do you do all day, anyway?
8. I’m sure you’re not the only one who’s ever wasted money on a college degree.
9. That explains why your son is so clingy!
10. Weird. I assumed your house would be superclean.
I must say, as a SAHM with a college degree, I have heard number 8 more times than I care to count. I didn’t know college degrees had an expiration date! I think everyone I know always assumed that because I did so well in school, graduated near the top of my class, etc., that I would be some kind of “successful businesswoman (cue Romy and Michelle)”. To me, having a husband who I love very much and a son that is healthy and happy is the best kind of success! I couldn’t imagine not being able to stay home with my son, and I’m very blessed to have the opportunity to do so.
What do you think of this list? If you are a SAHM, have you ever heard any of these things? I don’t want to turn this into a debate–whether you stay at home or have a job out of the house, all moms work!